Misconceptions

I understand the argument that there cannot really be absolute truth; not saying that I agree with it, but I can at least understand it; that in a way, we as humans are incapable of completely understanding anything. What I do not understand, though, is when Christians say that there is no absolute truth, especially Christians who are in roles of leadership. I ask for someone to actually stand up and take charge. In return I'm given a weak, shy, passive response. This is not the answer that I am looking for. If the church, the "body of Christ" and in particular the leaders cannot stand up and do their authoritative duty, then what are they there for? Unfortunately too many ignorant, self-righteous people have gotten in the way and skewed the idea of a right answer as possibly existing. No one wants to hear a direct answer, because a direct answer has been given the implication that anyone that thinks differently is wrong. Why can a person in authority not give his/her answer and then be willing to debate it and potentially alter it? Difference of opinion does not need to end in argument, just like a direct answer does not require for other views to be excluded. It is simply the best that can be given at the time. Conversations, conversions, and salvation are all just ways to invite someone into the struggle of finding something better.